Wolf & Raven Guidebook - Guest Lists

UNCLE KNOBHEAD | KIDS | RIFF-RAFF

Wolf & Ravens PSA to only invite people to your big day who add to your life and who you actually see on the reg

Uncle Knobheads

Probably the biggest ball ache of the wedding planning process is deciding who to invite, and one that may cause issues amongst your family. My best advice, albeit, probably not completely helpful, is be firm, stick to your guns and only invite the people YOU actually want there. Try not to worry about the people you haven’t invited, you cannot compromise your budget and vision to appease an old college friend you’ve only had one night out with in 5 years, or an uncle nob head who hasn’t really had anything to do with you for years. Not only will your wedding pictures be with you for your whole life, filled with a load of riff-raff (if you succumb to the pressure), but you should not compromise on your vision for a smaller wedding in order to satisfy people who may be pressuring you to invite every Tom, Dick and Harry. If someone cant be arsed with you, or you have no relationship with and individual (blood included) in your day to day life, then what’s the point in them being there. If you calmly explain your reasoning to family members that might be sad by their absence, hopefully they will understand.

Friends Partners

If you are wanting to keep your numbers down, I would advise only inviting your friends partners who are married, who are in a really long term relationship or if you have somewhat of a relationship with their significant others. I think if a friend or family member is in a newer  relationship, or you have literally never spoken to them, ever, then I would leave them off your guest list. I would send a courtesy message to your friend with a brief explanation, stating that in a bid to keep numbers/budget down, you’ve had to be strict on who attends. If theyre a true friend, they’ll understand, and if they don’t want to attend without their partner then that’s also fine, don’t hold it against them and respect their decision to ultimately not come.

Kids

If you do not wants kids at your wedding, because you 1) don’t have kids yourself/don’t like them, lol 2) CBA with the screaming or interrupting your vows/speeches 3) don’t want them running around all day causing mayhem, THEN DO NOT INVITE THEM! Its OKAY, you don’t HAVE to! Again, a simple follow up text to parents to explain that you have made the decision to not have children at your wedding, but you really hope they can make it nonetheless. In my experience most parents are quite glad of the night off, and once again, if they don’t want to come because of this, then don’t hold it against them, its their decision.

Im a firm believer of – if people want to come to your wedding, they will be there. And the best way around some of these political issues will be more easily solved than you think, by simply communicating and explaining. So if you want a destination wedding, go for it, or if you want a mid week wedding, do it – people will make the effort if its important to them. Not to say that those who don’t come are less important, because every circumstance is different for everyone after all – but like I keep saying, you have to do what YOU want, and you cannot worry about sorting everyone else out.